It’s a misty morning where Rachel is primping in front of the mirror for her favourite get-together after long years. She is happy with what she has now and very excited to see her old friends after a long span of time. Anu, Rachel’s daughter who is 31 years old is lost in her thoughts. Rachel was observing her by looking at her from the mirror and thought that she was not seemed to be quite happy since yesterday!
Rachel: “Anu! Is everything fine with you?”
Anu: “I don’t know mom”.
Rachel:”I have been observing you, from the day you came here and you don’t seem to be happy at all”.
Anu started crying and Rachel came to her who is sitting on a bed with cross-legged. Rachel hugged her and passed the tissue to her to wipe the tears.
Rachel: Honey! Why are you crying like this? I haven’t seen you crying in recent years! What’s the reason for this? Tell me I will help you in all the possible ways!
Anu: My relationship is not going well with my husband mom. He is not the same as once he was during college. I loved him so much and now being with him is like a torture.
Rachel: hmmm….baby you are observing a change in him, but did you observe the change in yourself?
Anu looked puzzled at her mom and said “change in me? I’m the same mom. It’s him who changed now, who has time for everything except for me and who is ignoring me these days.”
Rachel: “Honey! Let me tell you one thing, I am not telling that total mistake lies with you, but even you are responsible for whatever happens in your relationship! See me and your dad were once lovers, now we are a happy couple and living happily together. Even I faced a lot at the starting year of my wedding, later I understood the changes and adapted to them.”
Anu: “Don’t blame dad, mom! He is a nice person. He will never hurt you as nick is hurting me now!”
Rachel: Ummm…she sat on bed cross-legged and took Anu’s hand and kissed her. “Okay dear! Now tell me what all changes you have observed and what all the problems you are facing with Nick till now, we will sort this out. It’s a promise!”
Anu: “Mom can’t tell you because of it’s not a single change and single thing. There is no point in sorting things out and all. I just want to stay away from him for a couple of months!”
Rachel: “Later? After a couple of months, everything will be solved? Do you think this is the ultimate solution now?”
Anu: ———————– Silence ————————————— after few minutes “okay mom listen, he is coming home late every day, but I thought it’s okay because he is working hard, he is not spending time with me, he doesn’t want to have dinner with me, he is not bothered about me, he got promotion last week and he didn’t tell me that, i got to know from his colleagues. I’m all alone at home and he is least bothered about how I feel the whole day! Now he got his own world, his office, his colleagues, his parties and who knows may date even! In college, I was his world and he used to be with me, only with me, now he has got another world of happiness.”
Rachel: Smiled at her daughter’s innocence and said “let me ask you a few questions, honey!. When he is coming home late did you ever ask the reason?
Anu: “Why should I? Isn’t that his responsibility to inform?”
Rachel: “You are taking things in a wrong way, dear. When you were in love his staple goal is to marry you and achieve you happily, now he got that, so his goal will be changed. His goal will be to take good care and working hard for your own family!
Anu is listening carefully to her mom…
When he arrived late it’s you who should ask how his day was, then it will be as a stress reliever to him. When he is not calling you, why can’t you call and ask whether he is coming home for dinner or tell the plan that you want to go out for dinner! He might want to surprise you this weekend about his promotion when you came to know by his colleagues, why didn’t you plan and throw a surprise party to him? Anu! You are the who chose to be at home. Nick left it to your choice he said “you can stay at home or you can’t work it’s your choice” right?
He has his own World, yes you are right! Everyone should have their own anu. Now I’m not asking your father to involve in this get-together, because it’s my own world of friends and I’m going to enjoy it, that doesn’t mean that I’m ignoring your father. We both love each other that doesn’t mean that one’s freedom needs to be affected and both should be together always! Tell me how your sex life is”?
Anu felt strange and remained silent for a few seconds and said “I don’t have any problem with that. His intimacy is the same on the bed”.
Rachel: “You said there might be dates with others, if in that case why your sex life will be amazing? Can’t he go and have sex with his date-chicks? Anu! Let me tell you life is not so easy and do love? It’s complicated but it’s us who should make it litre and get immersed in love.
In a relationship giving is the first thing and later what you get in return doesn’t matter because it’s not a business! Maybe Nick doesn’t have time to give and show his love, so you start doing it. I know he loves you so much and how much he struggled to marry you, so leaving him for a couple of months for small reasons don’t work and it’s not good at your part! If you love a person, you should support them at odd times and understand them!
Anu No relationship can survive without trust, honesty and communication, no matter how close you are”.
Anu hugged her mother and kissed her.She now knew what to do and went happily to her home to express her love to her beloved husband!